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… AND THAT IS THE WAY I MAKE FIRE! Simple and messy “how to gry”.
I will add quick smoke tutorial / step by step too Just wait. \o/
EDIT: Sorry for small images >8C I am not good with tumblr image sizes and I have never understood them. But by copying the image URL you can see bigger sized images!
I know a ton of you have been waiting for this one. Teaching you to make your own plastic keychains!
To start off, I think the biggest question everyone has is what I use to make them. I work with shrink film. You might be familiar with Shinky Dink brand shrink film as a kid. I use Grafix brand white inkjet shrink film. The inkjet kind is relatively pricey compared to the regular kind. If you’re using regular, I don’t recommend you stick it in your printer. Sharpie markers would be good for that.
Alright, now open up the file with the images that you’re working with. Make sure your images are a lot bigger than you want your finished product to be since they shrink significantly.
You’ll also want to lighten the opacity to about half. I go somewhere between 50-60%.
Now print your image out! I’ve found that it works best for me when I have it at the plain paper setting, and standard print quality.
Holepunch with a 1/4” holepuncher BEFORE you shrink them. It’s so much more work to have to punch holes when your plastic is thick!
Cut out your design, leaving the amount of border you want.
Set them on a tray for convenience. An aluminum foil sheet works too, but I recommend cookie trays because they are easier and quicker to get out of the oven.
Preset heat. Your shrink film package will tell you what temperature to set it at, but I find that it isn’t always accurate for me. I generally set temperature to 350 degrees or so.
Put them in the oven. Remember to keep track of time! I leave them in for about a minute and a half.
After time is up they should be super small! Magic!
If your charms are not flat, put something heavy on it right out of the oven when they are still hot and malleable.
If you’d like to, you can seal them now. In my last two batches, I used clear topcoat nail polish. The problem with that is that I need between 3-5 coats of it, and it takes a while to dry. I’ve been experimenting with modpodge.
For lariats, you can use jump rings or lobster clasps.
Here is one that I made that wasn’t sealed. The finished texture after shrinking is a little bit rough. There’s nothing wrong with leaving them unsealed, but because they are inkjet printed, the colors wash right of without protection.
This is one that was sealed with modpodge. The colors become a little more vibrant and smooth and water resistant. Things often get stuck on when applying or drying so be careful.
These ones down here were sealed with clear nail polish. They come out shiny if you put enough coats, but the grainy texture will still be there.
Well, there ya go! Have fun making your own keychains!
|do you have any tips for someone who wants to start a webcomic and wants to try using photoshop to do it?|
I was on the toilet with that last ask I answered so I decided to actually sit and try to help the best way I can. Anon, I’m still in an art rut especially with anatomy and I’m totally not the best with it, but let me link all of you to some things I like to look at on my spare time.
I don’t have any anatomy art books, so I wouldn’t know who to recommend, but I DO have a lot of youtube videos I watch. Here’s some that might prove usefeul::
How to Draw: Foreshortening with the Coil Technique
How to draw twisting forms
My favorite books that I have on hand to practice gestures/anatomy with ARE MY HOLY BIBLES.
This one has a wide variety of body types and therefore is my fav…the chubs….>:3
The main idea to keep your gestures from looking stiff is to remember the line of action
ALSO SERIOUSLY JUST GOOGLE ANYTHING from man butts to back to arms to head angles if you cannot sit in a figure drawing class like me. Here’s a short gif of my process to sketching a quick figure
I’M STILL LEARNING MYSELF and it’s fun to practice with friends!! I also enjoy playing around with styles, majorly disney artists such as glen keane
May 3, 2014: Slight change in pronouns.
April 24, 2014: This is the most recent update. The first half is unchanged. Differences begin from the "Let’s Review Each Stage" section.
There are 5 stages to development and they are as follows:
- Counter Dependence
All people move through their lives hopefully developing from one stage to the next. The ideal scenario is that you are dependent as a child, counter this dependence as a teen and young adult, become comfortable with shared responsibilities as a young adult/adult, shed your need for obligatory gestures to become truly independent (best stage for parenthood), then transcend and become greater than this. What that looks like I’m not too sure.
Unfortunately, many things in our lives can halt our development. A lot of these things come from early childhood experiences. Example: Abandonment. Your father could have ran out on you and never returned, or you could have been forgotten at Disneyland for a few hours. One will hurt you more than the other, but both can be sufficient to impair your ability to develop emotionally.
Abandonment is a form of betrayal and it instills in people a great anxiety, a fear that all future relationships will mimic this first betrayal. People who’ve been abandoned tend to hover around stage one or two. You’ve probably heard of them. Stage 1: The clingy, “crazy”, obsessed Significant Other that drives her potential mates away. Stage 2: The aloof, apathetic Significant Other that seems to “not care” when his mate learns he’s cheating on her. (For more on this and much more, try The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck).
At this point I’d like to say that a person can exhibit All Five Stages at the same time. People tend to revolve around a certain stage and this explains why perfectly reasonable people can suddenly commit terrible acts or why completely terrible people can say some enlightened words.
So, how would someone go about changing himself? Going up a stage? By the process known as "Grieving".
Grieving is the process of releasing pain and pent up emotion. The reason that people remain stuck in stages is because they have yet to grieve. It requires that you search out what exactly caused your emotions to bottle up, confront it, and let it all come out in a torrent of emotional release. All the pain, all the misery, all the frustration and anxiety, let it out.
This is what Psychologists, i.e. therapists, are trained and paid to do. Help you search for what’s pained you, bring it to the surface, help you confront and release it without judgment.
Notably, this is a painful process. You will face inconvenient truths, shatter former god-like figures (e.g. your parents), and you will wallow in an ocean of your own misery, pain and frustration. But when you survive, and you will, you will feel a weight literally lifted off you. Seemingly, this weight is real, and it is made of pain, guilt, shame and frustration. It is the drag of depression. (I was diagnosed with Chronic Depression early March of year 2013).
And when this weight is lifted off you, your behavior will… tilt. Not change immediately, for it is usually a long process. I say tilt because the phenomena is called a "Pendulum swing". See how stage 1 Co-Dependence is opposite to Stage 2 Counter Dependence? And stage 2 is opposite to stage 3? And stage 1 is similar to 3, while stage 2 is similar to 4? Emotional development is like the swinging of a pendulum. To develop properly, you need to swing between extremes so that you can gain the full understanding of each stage and understand why you can move beyond them. It is imperative that you do not attempt to skip a stage, because a) it’s impossible and b) you’ll miss the point.
And the point is this: emotional development is not a change in what you know. It is a change in how and why you feel, no matter what you know. This is why married couples can argue so much despite being perfectly intelligent, rational people.
Stan can’t see why his wife doesn’t understand that he needs to work late to impress the boss and bring in more money for them. Mary can’t see why Stan can’t spend less overtime, especially considering she, too, has a job and would like to see him more. Are either of them stupider than the other? No, but they’ll call each other stupid for not understanding each other. Fact is, both of them have perfectly rational, reasonable arguments, but they will never understand each other because they exist on different emotional stages. A stage one person can never understand a stage two person just as how a one dimensional being can never comprehend a two dimensional one. Only people at stage 4 and 5 can begin to understand stage 1, 2, and 3.
So a lot of strife, a lot of mistreatment, murder and mayhem occur not from a lack of intelligence but from emotional immaturity.
Now how can someone restart his development? Start by thinking of something he’s been hiding. Something he’s been suppressing for a long, long time. Something he’s never told anyone, is so afraid to tell anyone because of how painful it would be to admit it, how shameful, how degrading. Then let it out to someone you can trust to listen without a) giving advice nor b) making judgment.
A psychologist would be the best place to start.
Let’s review each stage.
- Counter Dependence
Stage 1 Dependence is most prominent at the child age. Children are dependent on their parents for everything, and we expect them to be. But it becomes a problem when people cling to this stage in to adulthood.
It will be difficult for them to leave their parent’s house. If she can’t live with her parents, then she will find something else to cling to. It could be a hobby, and while hobbies are generally good, it will be bad if she’s using the hobby as a distraction rather than as a form of enjoyment. Substance abuse is very very common in stage 1 people. Drugs and alcohol help numb the suppressed pain. She will be distrustful of people, even her spouse and children because she can’t ever expect other people to be independent.
She will tend feel wrathfully angry, and despair. She will tend to feel frustrated because nothing she does seems to fix things. She will feel ashamed because she’s failed to fix herself. She will tend to despair and she will tend to blame others for it. She will tend to be prone to violence and quick to judgment.
She will tend to see things in black and white. She will tend to never admit a mistake. She will tend to put others on pedestals, as well as herself. She will tend to think that when she is hurt by other people, those people hurt her intentionally.
A stage 1 individual has no boundary between herself and loved ones. If her child, or brother, or friend is hurt, she is hurt. An attack against someone she is dependent on is an attack on herself. Thus she will tend to be overprotective and suffocating, yet contradictorily violent and abusive.
She will tend to obsess over Safety. Because she has no boundaries, she tends to feel constantly at threat from anything and anyone. All important things in life are matters of Life and Death to her.
Stage 2 Counter dependence is something everyone should do as a teen and young adult. It is when everyone figures out that they can have a will of their own and can take responsibility for their own successes and mistakes. It is rebellion and it is healthy. But it is a problem if someone carries it in to adulthood.
A Stage two person tends to run from his problems. He is afraid of becoming dependent again, so he challenges and fights and flees. He will leave the house of his parents as soon as he can. He will distrust authority and challenge authority’s values. He will want to reject everything about his authorities, even if what he is rejecting is a good thing.
He will tend to be consumed with frustration and shame as his pent up emotions hold him back. He will tend to obsess over not being his parents to the point where his parents control him. Anything his parents say can make him instantly upset, angry and sad. That is because he is still emotionally dependent on them.
He will tend to be excessively logical. His rebellion causes him to express a lot of counter-dependent emotion, good as well as harmful. If he is unable to find a means to properly vent these emotions, and if the people in his life are unable to help him relieve these emotions, he will tend to suppress them. He will tend to seek out tools to aid his fight against authority. He will tend to seek out mental techniques to combat the feeling of these suppressed emotions, as well as techniques that allow him to conquer over others. Unfortunately for him, the mental techniques he will find are inherently temporary. They do not relieve emotional suppression, only mask it. They are to be used only a couple of times during periods of great busyness, until one manages to get enough time to properly Grieve. I know this from personal experience.
He will tend to obsess over Status and Achievement. Because he is attempting to establish his own identity, he tends to try and demonstrate his value. A very common way to do this is to make others feel less valuable. All important things in life are matters of winning and losing. To him, all the world’s a game and all are players and pawns.
Stage 3 Group-dependence Stage 3 is when you’re ready to start taking on responsibilities. Everyone would hopefully reach this stage by 20s adulthood. You are now OK with sharing burdens without feeling you are too dependent on anybody. You are now OK with doing things independently because you can trust people to support you. This sounds pretty good, but the major problem with Group-dependent people is obligation and expectation.
A person who is Group-dependent tends to expects other people to be Group-dependent. When a stage 3 person does something as a favor to you, she will want you to return that favor but she will “understand” if you don’t return it. A stage 1 person might force you, guilt you, threaten you, ignore you if you don’t return the favor. A stage 3 person will tend to not, but she will still feel hurt over it.
She will grow frustrated that nobody does what is expected of them. Since she does not understand Stage 1 and 2 people, she will tend not to give them mercy when they betray her expectations too much. When they do, she will tend to either yell at them or abandon them. She will think, “They are not worth my time”. She will become resentful. She will tend to grow cynical. She will tend to share only with people who share with her.
She tends to be obsessed with notions of Obligation and Duty. To her, people are obligated to one another, and tend to have inherent duties they must fulfill as part of being in any relationship. Particularly with regard to family and friends. While these notions of Obligation and Duty do not always result in unhealthy behavior and feelings, they do inherently cause difficulties that tend to harm one’s and others’ emotional development.
Stage 4 Independence Not many people get to this stage. The characteristic that most describes this kind of person is charitable or communicable. A truly independent person is someone who can give of himself without feeling hurt when other people don’t give back.
He can see why people act the way they do. He will tend to be merciful, and kind, and generous. He will offer up his home, pick up hitchhikers and volunteer at soup kitchens without anyone knowing he does. He will help people because he wants to, and he will not help people because he wants to.
This is a great stage to be at, but it does have some problems. For one, people tend to get dependent on him. Two, He being sympathetic doesn’t mean he understands what exactly he can do for them. His generosity could be insulting to them if they are stage two. He won’t mind if they are insulted, though, because that’s their problem, not his. While he can be very benevolent to people, he’s not always going to do the right thing for them.
Stage 5 Transcendence This is rather uncommon. Some ridiculously famous people to be stage 5 may be the mythical Jesus Christ or the original Buddha. The behavior of Bill and Melinda Gates may demonstrate at minimum Stage 4. Hayao Miyazaki’s films that tend to resonate with individuals in all emotional stages may be manifestations of Stage 5 understanding. A stage 5 person is someone who has mastered Empathy. Empathy is a step above sympathy. Sympathy is shared feelings. In the original Greek, sympathy means sharing of pain. Empathy is beyond that, it is understanding.
An empathetic person is sympathetic when someone needs her to be. But when the situation calls for righteous anger, she will be righteous and angry. She’s forgiving when she needs to be forgiving, stiff when she needs to be stiff. She knows when to separate herself from others and she knows when to sacrifice for others. She knows when to punish, she knows when to give mercy.
Of course it’s not the case that she actually knows for 100% certainty what to do/how to act. Truthfully she merely acts to the best of her ability, understanding the limitations of her own understanding. But in being emotionally mature her actions tend to flow out in proper response to most any situation. Sympathetic when she should be. Angry when she should be. Forgiving when she should be.
She is Transcendent. Beyond human understanding because stage 1, 2, 3 and 4 cannot understand her. But she can understand all of them.
Come on, you know you want to use “befuddled” more.
Asinine and ignorant are ones I find particularly useful.
Ridiculous and outrageous also work well.